This pattern is the most powerful pattern that i’ve ever developed. I have had numerous client go to numerous therapists and NLP experts before they came to me and i use this pattern with them. without exception is causes the change everytime. For those of you new to NLP – this is going to appear like a simple collapse anchors pattern – far from it. this is a kinaesthetic CHAIN of anchors pattern with a strategy change added in so it fires in the right situations.

From a person perspective this i modified from something called ‘the NLP secret’ and from John McWhirter (A scottish NLP trainer that Steve Andreas personally claims to be so good that McWhirter is the only person Steve Andreas feels he’s learnt anything from since the inception of NLP)
Recently my girlfriend of 10 years decided it was time for her to leave this relationship [due to my unwillingness to have children yet] and obviously i was in a majorley bad way, but after doing this pattern – nothing. i have been perfectly fine ever since. the power of this pattern should NEVER be underestimated.

let me know what you think.

Troy’s Hyper Awareness Pattern.
[The pattern that can change ALL negative states, feelings and emotions]

Pre-frame:

*physiology creates emotion

*both the positive and negative states require a process. Most people are only aware of the negative process.

*The ultrafine micro-distinctions are what make this pattern work not the larger macro distinctions and posture changes.

*Do not rush this process. The longer this takes the better. I have found that the more experienced at this process you become the longer it takes.

*Do not change the steps or try and streamline or play with the process.

*Both the negative state and the resource state should be accessed as close to 100% as possible. This amazing process will not work whatsoever if you do it from a mild state access, by “remembering” the state but not actually feeling it, or if you just analyse the state from an analytical perspective about the state.  Just fully and totally access the state as much as possible. This is why the process can take longer the more experienced you get at it.

ONE:
Fully access the unresourceful/negative/unwanted  state. Do this by running the strategy (problematic situation in which it occurs)  in your mind over a few times. Give this negative state a name so that you know what it is. Fully access this with VAKOGAd. Do whatever you need to do to get into this state. Repeat internal dialogue over and over in your mind make the right images, imagine the right things happening, say to yourself what you need to say. Whatever it is you do.  As you do this start to become hyper aware of your entire body and all its kinaesthetics, tensions, sensations ,posture and physical emotions.

As this state becomes intense “ freeze” your posture and body totally. Don’t move a muscle (this is essential). Now become aware of how you were standing/sitting, posture, head tilt, directional focus of your eyes, breathing pattern,

now become hyper aware of your muscle tensions. [whilst keeping the negative state fully by running the mental memories/movies/chatter] Really take note of the kinaesthetics. Any/all the body emotions, pressures, feelings, everything. Over every square inch of your skin and body. Notice all the  micro-sensations that make up this unresourceful state and posture.

Start at the top of the head and work your way down the front and up the back, constantly becoming more and more aware of the micro-nuances that you’ve never noticed before that actually comprise this unresourceful state.

Once you are fully and totally feeling this unresourceful state 100% (or close to) – you are solidly feeling all the kinaesthetics, emotions, body sensations, holding the posture frozen, doing what you need to do in your head , saying what you need to say and keeping your eyes around the correct place & focus – create an anchor. The best moment to do this is if you run the strategy/situation through in your mind and for a split-second there’s an intense moment where your heart has an extra beat – try and set the anchor at that moment. If not, it’s not that important. (You can create an anchor by holding your thumb and forefinger on one hand together)

TWO:

now stop the internal dialogue chatter and images and spend a couple of minutes genuinely pondering the question “ if I had complete and total amnesia for everything up until this moment in my life how would I know to call this exact combination of body kinaesthetics and posture [Name you gave unresourceful state]? – this is important. Really genuinely ponder the question until the body sensations feel “ weird” or “odd” – breathe deeply and fully into the body sensations and keep asking the question over and over “ how did I decide that this exact body feeling means X?” (sure, it doesn’t feel good but how exactly did I decide that this feeling means X to me? It could have just as easily been any other negative emotion.) – think about this question until you get a little separation of mind and kinaesthetic happening.  A tree-falling-in-the-woods / the-sound-of-one-hand-clapping type feeling about the “weirdness of the body sensations”.

Breakstate. Solidly break the state.

THREE:

Now decide on a resource state. The resource state should be in a similar context but where you felt the total opposite to the unresourceful state (example both states are ‘with people’ or ‘doing a project’ or learning’ or ‘being social’ etc).
[***this is the one people struggle to do properly because when they are in a good state they are usually so externally focused that they are even less aware of the body kinaesthetics and sensations. This resource state will have almost as many fine distinctions as the negative state. The micro-distinctions of this resource state need to be as thoroughly elicited as the negative state was. Remember- it is the micro-distinctions that will make the big change in the end***]
fully access the resourceful/positive/wanted  state. Do this by running the strategy (idealistic memories in which they occur)  in your mind over a few times. Give this positive state a name so that you know what it is. Fully access this with VAKOGAd. Do whatever you need to do to get into this state. Repeat internal dialogue over and over in your mind,  step into the right images, imagine the right things happening, say to yourself what you need to say. Reminisce about similar experiences , Whatever it is you do.  As you do this start to become hyper aware of your entire body and all its kinaesthetics, muscle tensions or softenings, sensations ,posture and physical feelings that make up the resource state.

As this state becomes intense “ freeze” your posture and body totally. Don’t move a muscle (this is essential). Now become aware of how you were standing/sitting, posture, head tilt, directional focus of your eyes, breathing pattern,

now become hyper aware of your muscle tensions. [whilst keeping the positive resource state fully by running the mental memories/movies/internal dialougue] Really take note of the kinaesthetics. Any/all the body emotions, pressures, feelings, everything. Over every square inch of your skin and body. Notice all the micro-sensations that make up this positive resourceful state and posture. Is your back straighter? Shoulders back? Head up? Breathing deeper?

Start at the top of the head and work your way down the front and up the back, constantly becoming more and more aware of the micro-nuances that you’ve never noticed before that actually comprise this positive resourceful state.

Once you are fully and totally feeling this positive resourceful  state 100% (or close to) – you are solidly feeling all the kinaesthetics, emotions, body sensations, holding the posture frozen, doing what you need to do in your head , saying what you need to say, aware of the difference in your focus of vision, posture, facial muscles.. everything – create an anchor. If you want you can find similar memories that had this feeling attached to them and also run that strategy/situation through in your mind until the state is even more intense (You can create an anchor by holding your thumb and forefinger on the other hand together)

break state. Do a solid break state.

FOUR:

Now access the negative state again by firing the negative anchor and stepping in to the correct physiology, internal chatter, posture and mental thoughts.

Now, “ what is different? In what ways is this unresourceful state different from the resource state?” pay attention to all the micro-distinctions. In what ways are all the body kinaesthetics different? Go head to toe noticing all the micro-differences in skin sensations, kinaesthetics, notice all the differences. How was this negative state different from the resource state? Is one looking down and looking up? Does one have a feeling in peripherals and the other a feeling in the forehead? Notice all the differences. Try to stay in the negative state whilst doing this. You should also begin to notice new fine distinctions about the negative state that you didn’t notice earlier.

FIVE:

Now fire the resource anchor just once. And as the state begins to change now start to notice and describe all the similarities between the two states. “ how are these two states similar?” in what ways are these two states similar? You are the same person, maybe they happen in the same situations? What is similar in the body kinaesthetics of both states? Do they both perfect your posture? Do they both affect the way you stand? Do they both affect the direction of your focus? Are they similar in that they both affect your heart rate but in different ways? They both affect your breathing pattern or mental clarity? List all the similarities.

SIX:

Now, fire the resource anchor a couple of times and fully step into the feeling of the resource. Really access this state powerfully – as close to 100% as you can. Use all the right internal dialogue, imagine the right situations etc. Notice all the body kinaesthetics.

Now, whilst maintaining this resource state how is this positive resource state different from the unresourceful state. “In what ways is this positive state different from the negative state? (holding the positive anchor if you need) list all the micro-distinction differences you can.

Break state. Completely shake off the state.

SEVEN:

Now access the negative /unresourceful state by firing anchor and stepping in to the negative state – and just as you begin to feel the negative posture and state fire the positive resource anchor a couple of times, but this time become hyper aware of how your entire physiology slowly, naturally and automatically begins to change its stance, posture and kinaesthetics. Really take a mental note of the physiological changes that happen from negative to positive. – what are you aware of happening to your body feelings? How does the focus of your eyes change? What happens to your mental clarity and thought patterns as the physiology slowly adjusts itself automatically because you fired the positive state anchor? What micro-muscle changes are you aware of?

Breakstate. Completely shake it all off.

EIGHT:

Now, access the negative state and posture again by firing the negative and then as you are beginning to feel the negative, fire the positive anchor a few times – but this time, try and maintain/freeze the posture of the negative state. Notice what happens to your internal mental and emotional state when frozen in the negative posture by firing a positive resource anchor. Notice everything you notice. Take a few minutes to do this.

Breakstate. Completely shake it off.

NINE:

Next, access the negative again by firing negative anchor and getting into the unresourceful posture & state – as this happens fire/hold the RESOURCE anchor a few times and allow the body posture to naturally make all the adjustments towards the positive resource state, BUT as it is making those unconscious automatic adjustments repeat the negative internal dialogue over and over in your mind, see yourself in the situations that used to create the old negative state,  imagine the right things happening, say to yourself what you  usually need to say . Mentally do whatever it is you used to do to create the negative state [whilst firing the positive anchor and allowing the body, posture and kinesthetics to naturally automatically move towards the positive state]. Notice what happens and how your feelings change.

Breakstate.

TEN:

now, begin to access the negative state by firing the unresourceful anchor but very quickly afterwards fire the positive resource anchor a few times and genuinely completely access the positive state to its fullness – then breakstate. Repeat this conditioning process a couple more times.

ELEVEN:

And finally, run the old movies/situations in your mind that used to create the negative/unresourceful feelings (strategies) but only fire the positive resource anchor as you are mentally running those situations. See yourself acting/being/feeling/behaving the way you want to be and fire the resource anchor.

This will be a complete and permanent change. It is a full emotional/kinaesthetic chain of anchors that is permanently installed in the strategy where it’s needed. There is EXTREMELY little that cannot be fully changed using this technique.

Types of kinaesthetics (possible body sensations):

ü  heat

ü  pressure

ü  cooling

ü  tingling

ü  pulsing

ü  internal balance

ü  numbness

ü  empty or full stomach

ü  fight  or flight

ü  heartrate

ü  micro-muscles (around mouth forehead etc)

ü  butterflies

ü  Goosebumps

ü  muscle tension

ü  rigidness

ü  jaw clenching

ü  softening

ü  tightening

ü  sensitivity

ü  pinpoint awarenesses feelings in extremities

ü   movement or spinning body feelings

ü  skin sensations

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This is a complete script for how to the NLP parts integration /Visual Squash. This can be one of the most powerful Neuro Linguistic Programming patterns available. This script i wrote  a number of years ago now, but it’s still pretty complete for the beginner to intermediate NLP’er.

PARTS INTEGRATION
The super mega happy lucky jackpot version

1. Elicit part
   It is important to get the precise part, in the clients’ own words. Also be SURE it is a problem by asking “..and how is THAT a problem for you?” repeatedly – chunk down to specific problem.

2. VAK representation of Part

Always try for personification.
”and if that image was someone you know, WHO would that look like now?”
{always go for personification of self –ie its me at 14years old looking sad – the result is way more powerful that a shape or an image etc]

“..and if that person had a weight..what would that feel like?”
”and if you were to HEAR it saying something to your now.. what would you HEAR it SAYING?”

1. Elicit OPPOSITE part

“..and now I’d like the exact opposite part, the flipside of the coin, the completely opposite number, the part which that part is MOST in conflict with to come sit out on the other hand” (VAK part – as above)

3a) Elicit other parts (this has a powerful effect but I hardly ever use it, just doing the opposite part is usually enough to re-create wholness)

“…and now I’d like any other parts, that are not already part of the opposite part, that feel they are in significant conflict with the problem part to also come out and sit on the knees/float in the air..”(VAK parts- same as above)

3b) ASK the AGE of each of the parts.

1. PROBLEM PART (must always start with the problem part)

“I’d now like to talk to part of you that [problem part] – the part of you that Looks like X at the age of X, the part of you that kind of feels [weight] as it sits there in your hand.. the part of you that said X to you…. That’s’ right…”

4a) realization of opposite part
”.. and I wonder if that part can now turn and look over at the other hand and I’m wondering if that part realises that there IS a part/s in which it is most in conflict with – I’m wondering if that part had realised that before now..?”
[no?] “.. that’s okay, is it okay to begin to really Notice THAT now?

1. CHUNK UP to highest intention

Chunk up to highest intention as THIS boundry is what caused the part in the first place, when client loops, chunk 1-2 levels higher than that as the loop is generally the boundry. Generally the highest intentions possible are peace, love, wholeness and existence etc
” whats this parts’ highest intention for you…?”
”for what purpose…?”
”why does it want THAT for you?…”
”…and all of that for what purpose?…”
”…and having all that, what will that get for you?”

5b) [on leaving problem part and moving to next part]
”..and now I’d like to go over here and talk with part Y (opposite), and as I am talking with part Y, part X[problem part] can continue to think about and re-align with its original highest intentions for [clients name] and continue to consider even more ways to now happily, easily and effortlessly support [clients name] in achieving their goals and desires…”

6. Opposite Part Chunking
Chunk up the opposite part til you get the SAME WORD highest intention as the problem part.

1. Working Together [talking back to problem part]
   ”..did you notice that the other part/s has the same highest intention for you which is your A[highest intention]? – did they notice that?? – isn’t that interesting? – Did they both/all realise that they are both/all only really primarily concerned about achieving their highest intention for you now, which is your A?..”
   
   ”I wonder if They Can Notice That Now, that they both/all have the same highest intention for you, which is your A?..”

“…and I wonder if they realise that, by being in conflict, they’re keeping eachother from achieving their highest intention for you, which is your A? … and I wonder if both/all parts would be willing to work together now, to better achieve each of their highest intentions for you, which is your A…now?

1. Exploring the other parts’ worlds’.

Allow each part to explore the other parts and learn from it.
tell me about what’s going on for you as (part X goes into part Y)
[then as client finishes telling you one or two things.. follow into this as long as its appropriate for context]
”..rapidly consciously and unconsciously learning all the learnings there is there to learn, all the positive learnings for [client’s name]  all the positive learnings for [client’s name] and [name’s] future, LEARNING ALL THERE IS TO LEARN THERE AND STORING THEM IN THAT SPECIAL PLACE…all the positive learnings…NOW…and storing them ALL in that special place you use to store ALL such learnings, the learnings of which NOW…. will allow you NOW …to easily and effortlessly make the changes in [name’s] life that you’ve been so wanting to make now, haven’t you?… that’s right.. all THOSE positive learnings. LEARNING ALL THE WAYS IN WHICH you can work together to help [name] to achieve their goals of X …..very good, all the learnings…The ones that are making THOSE changes NOW… very good…”

1. GROWING UP

“…and now with all those learnings, THAT knowledge, THAT information that you’ve stored in that special place you use for all such positive learnings, that make all those changes NOW that you’ve wanted to make for so long, I’m wondering how easily and effortlessly THOSE parts of you, of ages xx, yy and zz can GROW UP NOW, grow up now with all this information to your current age and current knowledge, leaving in the past, those things, those states, those emotions and those decisions in which it KNOWS needs to be left back there.. now,  and access all the resources they need to from you’re unconscious to grow up from the ages xx, yy and zz to NOW, bringing with it  all the positive things you’ve learned, all your new knowledge, new learnings, new intelligence and new maturity to support you in achieving your goals and your highest intention of X now in your life…..NOW… very good”

1. USING OTHER PARTS RESOURCES

Have all the parts look at eachother and FEEL GOOD about eachother a
and FEEL GREAT about working together.

“ and I wonder if [problem part] can look at [part B] and see if it has any  resources or attributes that it would like to have, that would better help it better achieve its highest intention for you, you which is your A?..”
[yes?] yes? it does, doesn’t it?..

”…and as you begin to realise, now, that you were once originally part of a larger whole that intended to work together, in harmony,  to achieve your highest intention for [name], which is [name’s] A? – you can begin to see now that YOU ABSOLUTLY HAVE PERMISSION NOW, AGAIN, to do that PERFECTLY, and support eachother in achieving THAT highest intention NOW, by sharing THOSE resources that [part B] has that will help you in supporting [name] in achieving their goals ..and you can absorb those Now.”

“…that’s’ right.. rapidly and unconsciously learning, learning all the positive learnings now for [name] and [name’s] future… storing all those learnings in that special place you reserve for all such learnings, that MAKE THOSE CHANGES NOW…very good”

10a) Do this for all parts involved

(Conversationally)
” one of the great things about this processes’ is that, MOST people find that, for some reason, they unknowingly, start making connections at the unconscious level, that starts to create so many positive changes for them in their life in SO MANY areas now that they were not expecting to make them right now… that their whole life changes from ALL THE CHANGES YOU ARE MAKING NOW. – I love it, it’s a great process…. you are doing VERY WELL, you are good at this! – I wonder how many changes you’ll make after today?”

*** HANDS SHOULD BE MOVING TOGETHER BY NOW – if they are not, you did NOT chunk high enough on the intention. Something is wrong***

11. [upon noticing hands moving together]
**surprised tonality** ”Did you notice that? – I mean, you’re not doing that on purpose are you??”
[no] “..wow, I guess YOU ARE REALLY INTEGRATING, AND MAKING THOSE CHANGES NOW.. and as you continue to allow your hands to do as they want to do, to make those changes for you now, I wonder if they continue making those jerky movements towards eachother…or if it will be smooth?..”
[subconscious movements are normally very jerky]

12. INTEGRATE PARTS TOGETHER as one big whole if it hasn’t happened already.
”…and I wonder in which way these parts, as they have grown up completely now, haven’t they? ..would best like to integrate fully now, to make those changes…”
[note presuppositions]

12a) “…and if there is any other parts that would like to join in this integration please allow them to do this now…. Maybe you’d even like to throw in there a little of that part of you that REALLY likes to have fun and enjoy what you’re doing… and allow that to join into the integration now…very good”

13. BRING INTEGRATION INTO BODY

- bring into body, ask how unconscious would prefer to do that.
”…and take that complete integration RIGHT INSIDE, and fully integrate into the WHOLENESS… and as you do, feeling it integrate now, feel that feeling – make those changes rapidly and dramatically at the unconsciously level..now, feeling it penetrate through your entire being, right down to the cellular level…and to the atomic levels… and then feel it making THOSE changes right down, to the space between the atoms, even MAKING AMAZINGLY POSITIVE CHANGES FOR YOUR AND YOUR FUTURE THAT YOU DIDN’T EXPECT TO MAKE NOW, Making all THOSE changes now..…and really feel that amazingly beautiful, releasing, happy feeling vibrate out through your entire being & essence and continuing to radiate out ….really enjoying that..now…

14. BREAKSTATE
[clap hands once] “..You don’t smell popcorn do you?” (Laughing)

15. TEST
”so, I’m sorry, What was the problem again??”
[if done properly they won’t be able to remember or won’t be able to re-state it the same way again”
(I can’t remember) – “That’s RIGHT, YOU CAN’T!…very good, in fact you’ll completely forget about that old problem now”
(I dunno)  – “That’s RIGHT, YOU DON’T!…very good, in fact you’ll completely forget about that old problem now”

16. FUTURE PACE
”…close your eye’s and now imagine stepping out to some indefinite time in the future, where in the past, that old problem may have hindered you or held you back and notice what happens for you now.. (do this twice)

(and as the third one)
”..and now as you imagine stepping one last time to some indefinite time in the future, where in the past, that old problem may have hindered you or held you back, notice how things have changed for you now, notice how amazing you feel about it now (do all VAK), notice that this change you made BACK THEN was a cause-set-in-motion – RIPPLING OUT – compounding in a kind of massive snowballing effect and notice what IS for you now, isn’t that perfect? – great!

” okay, and come right back to now, and right back into the room. Good work! .. very good”

Troy Bakes is an Australian Based NLP therapist who consults worldwide for clients and professional therapists.

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Here is an extremely powerful [yet very basic] pattern for therapists that will give you both, massive change results and expand your knowledge and use of NLP strategies.

STRAGEDY: When Your Strategy Turns Into A Tragedy (Jan Prince)

All of us operate out of unconscious patterns that “get us what we have always gotten.” When these patterns repeatedly harm our relationships or our careers we are unwittingly creating our own tragedies. If we can examine and experience these ineffective patterns in a detached way we have the opportunity to change them dramatically.

Working with a client one dayI accidentally labeled her pattern a STRAGEDY – we were both amused because it was so apt.

In this article I will give a brief overview of the STRAGEDY questioning process and an example of how you can use it with a client. In later articles I will go more deeply into the finer structures of the technique. Don’t let the simplicity of it fool you – it is amazingly impactful because it uncovers the STRAGEDY and turns it into a positive strategy.

I present it here in a format that is helpful for those of you who work as coaches or therapists helping clients change limiting patterns.

If you know NLP well, you will recognize that this is an amalgam of several basic NLP processes, although you do not need to know NLP well to use the process.

Overview of the Five Basic Steps of the STRAGEDY Questioning Process:

I. Identify the issue, circumstance or interaction in which the client is consistently unhappy with the results.

II. Ask what happens, who does/says what, and the order in which it unfolds and write down the steps and the order in which they happen.

III. Repeat each step back to the client, filling in any missing pieces and making sure that the context, behaviors, thoughts, feelings and motivations are included. This may take several iterations before all of the nuances are uncovered.

IV. Once complete, prompt the client to repeat his stragedy aloud. You may want to have him repeat it several times until it is evident he understands his complicity in getting the unfortunate results.

V. Help him identify which step he wants to change and brainstorm new ways to think, feel, or behave to create a new strategy that results in positive outcomes.

Following is an example of how this has worked.

In step IV behaviors, feelings, thoughts, beliefs and identity issues are noted by bracketing and bolding them. Throughout, the questions and comments from the therapist are in bold and Ellen’s are in standard text.

The therapist begins by asking her what the problem seems to be.

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Step I. Identify the issue.

Ellen is a former accountant who decided to stay at home and raise their three boys. She was furious that her husband Don was always complaining about her housecleaning. She felt he was putting her down in front of their children. The ensuing arguments were causing a lot of tension and anger between them, and it was having a disastrous effect on the way she felt about herself.

STEP II: Ask what happens and the order in which it happens – write it down.

So that I can really understand this situation, tell me how it starts – what happens first?

Well, this morning is the perfect example: At the breakfast table Don said, “The kitchen is a mess.”

And then?

I got angry and defensive.

What makes you angry?

Because he is criticizing me again.

What makes you think he is criticizing you?

Because he expects me to do something about it.

How do you know that?

Because if something isn’t right, I have to fix it.

Because?

Because I’m responsible.

And you are responsible because?

I don’t know – I just have to be.

And if you aren’t responsible?

Then I am bad.

Step III. Reflect each step back to the client to make sure all the steps are uncovered.

Ok, let me back track on your strategy so far (therapist refers to his notes)

When your husband complains, you get defensive and angry because you think it is criticism, and that means you have to fix it, because if you don’t, you are bad. Is that right?

Yes.

And if you are bad, then what?

I get anxious and lash out.

And then what happens?

Don gets mad and we have a fight.

And then?

And then I feel even worse!

So let me make sure I’ve got this right: When Don complains, you get defensive and angry because you think it is criticism and that means you have to fix it because you believe that if you don’t fix it you are bad. And the thought of being bad makes you anxious and you lash out, and then you feel bad.

Right.

At this point Ellen is looking a little amused.

IV. Once complete, prompt the client to repeat her stragedy out loud. You may want to have her repeat it several times until it is evident she understands her complicity in getting the unfortunate results.

Ok, why don’t I lead you through this and you repeat each step after I do.

1. When Don complains about something in the house (circumstance);

2. you feel defensive and angry (feeling)

3. because you think it is criticism (thought)

4. and that means you have to fix it (belief)

5. because if you don’t, you are bad (self-concept – identity)

6. and then you get anxious and lash out at Don, (behavior)

7. and then you feel worse. (resulting state).

Yes, that is exactly what happens!

So how is that working for you?

She is a little stunned by the simplicity and counter-productiveness of it.

The therapist helps her repeat each step several times (which has been explained as a stragedy – a strategy that has turned into a tragedy), helping her fill in any missing details. By the fourth iteration she is laughing — her perspective is shaken and ready for an intervention.

Step V. Help the client identify at what point in her STRAGEDY she could think or do something different, and brainstorm new behaviors that would create a more satisfactory result. (The earlier in the pattern, the better.)

Ellen, if we were to change one step of the STRAGEDY, what would it be?

She is a little stuck.

What would happen if you didn’t think of it as criticism, just a comment?

Well, I sure would feel different.

And if you didn’t take it as criticism, how might you respond instead?

I’d feel a little detached and maybe ask him what he thinks we can do to keep it in better order.

How would that be for him?

She chuckles:

Well, he would be very shocked and I wouldn’t feel it was all my responsibility. Maybe we wouldn’t have an argument.

The therapist led her through a scenario using the new response to see how it would affect the rest of the interaction. She liked the results and decided to try it at home.

At the next session she reports that it is easy to catch herself early in the old pattern and changing the one step has allowed her to feel less defensive. Don has become more involved in household chores, and fewer fights have created a less stressful atmosphere.

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Notice that a stragedy’s structure usually involves:

A: an event;

B. a reaction to the event (a feeling, thought, behavior);

C. guided by a belief or interpretation;

D. a behavior resulting from that interpretation;

E. a response to that causing the next “event”;

and on to the next iteration of A to E.

I have found that uncovering the details of the interaction (with the thoughts, feelings, and behaviors clearly identified), naming the pattern a STRAGEDY, and verbally repeating each step allows the client to see the fallacy in her reasoning and to detach from the old pattern. More often than not they find it amusing.

Rarely do I have to challenge a belief or interpretation – the process seems to cause clients to do it themselves! My assistance is needed to help them identify an intervention point, brainstorm specific reinterpretations or new ways to respond, “try out” the new responses, and predict how this will affect the rest of the interaction.

All of those with whom I have worked report that it becomes quite easy to catch themselves before they get beyond the first step or two of their old pattern and to do something else.

I have been amazed that something this simple can have such a powerful impact.

If you have any questions or comments, feel free to email me or make a comment.

By Troy Bakes NLPt .MpracNLP. Cht.
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So the first instalment in using NLP to install the principles of success from Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson’s book – The Success Principles.

The first principle is entitled take 100% responsibility of your life.

This principle is easy to install and there is number of ways to do it.

The first thing that needs to be installed, is my principle of righteousness.  The reason for that this is, that absolutely no one who lives by this principle who would see any logic in blaming other people for their current situation in life.  People who choose to be happy, rather than right are people who take responsibility for themselves.

[The principle of righteousness see a previous dated blog].

For me, when I work with clients, there is four main techniques i will use to install the principle of righteousness.  As you will see, installing the principle of righteousness is essentially the same thing as installing “take 100% responsibility to your life” – the only difference being that ‘The Principle of righteousness’ is much more obviously universally applicable- all the time, everywhere. It’s the same thing, one is just easier to hold-in-mind for easy constant awareness.

Technique one: A basic submodality shift.

Elicit the submodalities of a personal boundary that you have, something that you would never consider it appropriate to ignore.  A good example of this would be something like monogamy.  If you are the type of person who would never cheat on a partner, elicit the submodalities of how you represent ‘being monogamous’ and the opposite submods of ‘cheating’ (something you’d never do).  And likewise, another boundary could be, if you are the type of person who loves animals, you could probably never work on the kill-floor of an abattoir.  Elicit submodalities of being an ‘animal lover’ and the opposite of (something you would not do) wanting a job at the abattoir.  Next, elicit the submodalities of a strong belief.

Next, elicit submodalities of blaming other people for your problems, and then shift those submodalities across to something you would not do and then over to a strong belief.  Repeat this a few times.

Next, elicit submodalities of taking 100% responsibility for everything that happens in your life (or ‘happy to be wrong/lets everyone else be ‘right’), Then move those submodalities across to the submodalities of something that is true about you, Ie – monogamy or a love of animals.  Next, moved that over to a strong belief.  (and in that ‘strong belief’ submodality set, you could make a disassociated image of seeing yourself happy and congruant, accepting that you co-create everything in your world and hear yourself saying “I am the creator of my experience, therefore I am responsible for every co-creation in my life” Repeat the process a few times.

Technique two:              timeline work.

Those of you experienced in NLP, this will be self-explanatory.  There could be any range of beliefs, decisions, or reimprinting that needs to be done to clean up decisions that ‘being right’ or ‘always winning’ is important. Or,  Avoiding responsibility by blaming others is easier Or, accepting responsibility would make the client feel like a failure, or simply a belief that ” it is not always my fault”.  Cleaning up these beliefs will make a massive step forward quickly and efficiently.

Technique three:            Michael Hall’s “mind to muscle pattern”.

This pattern, I use a lot.  I would recommend it using this pattern everyday for every principle in the book.  The success principles by Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson.

There are numerous ways to do this pattern, and I myself have a small variation on its original form.  For simplicity, i’ll write out the pattern here using my variation and as a floor pattern ie, spatially anchored.

Spatial anchor one:       I understand X. (say it with the gestures of understanding or explaining a principle to someone)

Spatial anchor two:        I believe X. (say it with the submods and strength of something you truely beleive – say it over and over until it settles)

Spatial anchor three:      I have decided to X, I am going to X, I will X, it’s time to X.

Spatial anchor four:       I am allowed to, I have permission to, I have permission from, I am giving myself permission to, I am choosing to, I’m allowing myself to, I have permission from Z to.

Spatial anchor five:       [stated as an emotion] [Kinaesthetic feeling of completion, relief, satisfaction, happiness, Etc] “because I understand and believe X, I have decided from this day forward, I will X, and I now feel Y because I have finally given myself full and complete permission to start X today”.

Spatial anchor six:         [action/movement] “because I have finally decided to feel Y about my belief of X, today I will do [one little thing / one little step forward] in the direction of X”.

Spatial anchor seven:    [step into VAKOGAd] experience the full representation of X.

LOOP BACK TO SPATIAL ANCHOR ONE: carry this feeling and experience of anchor seven, back to spatial Anchor one and went through the process two or three more times, every time you look through this process.  It will completely change.  That’s a good thing.  After a few processes, you will feel like you’ve always been this way.

Technique four: my own super pattern, which is called “collapsing the intentional values of the experts”.

I use this technique everyday.  The effect is outstanding.  The process is incredibly simple yet, may be complicated to me to explain .  So let’s see how I go.

Step one: create a semicircle of seven spatial anchors.  These anchors are named A – A1 – A2 – B2 – B1 – B – MM
the semicircle is organised so that A and B are directly opposite each other and MM is just on the opposite side of B1.

Step two: think of a context, a problematic metaprogram, a problem behaviour , or anything you want to change.  Step into anchor A as the self position, and fully experience in all the representation systems what this is like for you.

Step three: now, step into A1 – and as you look at A from A1, you deeply and fully consider.  What are your highest intentions, beliefs, feelings and thoughts for your actions and ways of being at A.  What is it that you are trying to achieve in A?

Step four: once you have all the information A1, move back again to A2.  Here is another backstep: at this point, really deeply and fully consider.  What is the highest intention of A1?  The ways of thinking beleiving values metaprograms pleasure- pain thresholds etc – what are your intentions at A2 for your way of processing an A1? what is the highest intention OF the highest intention?

Step five: shake that off, really separate and change state.  Now, step into B.  This is a model of expertise.  A person real or imagined, a person alive or dead, a person famous or just a friend – who is a wonderful model to the way you want to be.  Fully step into this experience.  Fully become this person.  Take a full second position.  Adopt their physiology, their breathing their muscle tension, their thought processes, look through their eyes, really take on what it means to be that other person looking back at you.

Step six: do the same at B1 and B2 as you did at A1 and A2 – really step into the experience of being the other person.  Really get their intentions beliefs, feelings, understandings, processes, history, upbringing, education, life experiences, beliefs about self, others, the world, time, life, everything. – really get everything all their intentions at B1.. and then the same [another step removed] at B2.

step seven: Now Step Forward into B1 and notice how that strengthens the understanding of B1 now, step forward into B, and really notice what it means to be B.  Really get into the full physiology of B again. Adopt their physiology, their breathing their muscle tension, their thought processes, look through their eyes, really take on what it means to be that other person, with all your new understandings, looking back at you [at A].

Step eight: now step out and shake off this experience.  Change your mental state.  Then walk over and associate back into A again.  From this self position – verbally ask your model at B for advice on how to achieve that level of success in the correct context that you desire it.  Imagine listening to and understanding the answer from your model.

Step nine: now walk slowly from A to B allowing your unconscious mind to process the steps required unconsciously to achieve this goal – when you step into B, fully associate in and look back at A.  And have the same conversation again as if you were person B.

Step 10: now step to B1 and fully and completely experience B1.  When you have this fully and completely imagine it like a bubble surrounding you, and imagine that way of being as a new filter, a new way of thinking.. and look through this filter and deeply and fully consider your thoughts and feelings about A, A1 and A2 from this perspective.

Step 11: and again step up to B2, and repeat the process.

Step 12: now step down B2 to B1 to B and over to MM (MM stands for “Meta-Message” as described by Robert Dilts) .  This position represents the unconscious and nonverbal higher level or heartfelt messages that the person at B is communicating on a non-verbal level.  Imagine and allow an unconscious conversation happening between MM and A1, and then between MM and A2, until which point you feel an unconscious shift of understanding.

Step 13: take all this conscious and unconscious information from MM and move it up to B and up to B1 and up to B2, Collecting it all together and then imagine stepping into A2 with all this information and notice how it changes A2, and then forward to A1, notice what is different and then forward into A.

Step 14: allow your unconscious to completely and totally collapse all the all the new learnings into A and integrate it.

This process should take about 15 minutes know it sounds complicated but it’s very very easy. it will collapse all the internal unconscious resources that you have into where you need them.  Sometimes this process is a full intervention for a client by itself.  In the context of taking 100% responsibility of your life you can easily find a model of someone who you believe portrays that completely in all areas of their life, or at the very least, an area where you struggle to take full responsibility.

Also, Starting this week, I am going to doing a project that will take me a number of months.  For those of you who are fans of Jack Canfield and Mark Victor Hanson ( Chicken Soup for the Soul books and ‘The Secret’) I am going to start at the start of their book “THE SUCCESS PRINCIPLES” and everyday (or every other day due to some days been too busy with clients and life) give you an NLP formula, or offer a serious of NLP processes to INSTALL that principle in yourself or your clients.
For me, That has always been my biggest problem with success & self-development books, they give you GREAT ideas.. but they never tell you how to INSTALL those ideas at the unconscious level, so they become automatic and natural ways of living – so from here on out I am going to give you a series of processes that can be used to install each principle in their book start to finish.

hope you enjoy it.

Now this theory is pretty much perfect, it is .  One theory that I try installing all my clients, because as far as I can tell, this is the cause of all problems.  Now, many clients.. in fact, all clients  I would say, try to argue with this concept, and that’s okay, because when somebody realises that all their problems in life will pretty much come down to this principle, their unconscious mind will  fight it to the maximum, they will try and find every exception to the rule, every which way in which this theory does not work.  But the truth of the matter is – it works every single time, and in all the years I’ve been teaching and installing this principle.  No one.  Not once ever,  has anyone been able to come up with a logical argument to disprove this theory.  This principle is not only powerful.  Its life changing and can take some getting used to, but once installed, life gets very easy.  Very, very easy.

I understand some of my readers will not be happy with this principle, but those who know me will also know that,  I don’t care. I have lived by this rule about five years now, nothing ever bothers me.  Always happy.  Life is very very easy, and people just astonished at how smoothly everything in my life works on me.  Always, and I mean always.  Nothing ever goes wrong in my life.

I would encourage you to take on this principle in every part of your life, find a way to install it in your clients, and live it everyday. in fact, a great thing about this principle is that when a client really takes it on.  You change their life.
This principle , this principle, I call my principle of righteousness.  When I say Righteousness, some people refer to this as ego, winning, being the best, looking good, avoiding embarrassment, keeping up appearances, a whole range of other names-some positive, some negative.  Either way, they are just bad justifications to keep doing what they’re doing.

Tell me what you think.

The Principle of Righteousness
You can be happy in life, or you can be right in life. Not both. choose.

Humans have the strongest desire to be Right. People will go to war to be right but they will DIE to NOT be made ‘wrong’. In order to be happy in life you need to Give up the need to be RIGHT about everything.

Every argument, every judgement, every war, every conflict is over both sides wanting to be right and refusing to be ‘wrong’ no matter what – They would rather die rather than be wrong. In fact humans will choose to be ‘right’ over everything including love and happiness.
Some will even go to the point of finding others who believe the same as them [accumulating social proof] in order just to prove how right they are over someone else, or start taking a mental inventory of past events that they can reference just so that they have clear back-up proof that they are right if they get challenged about it. When you think about how you feel when someone makes you ‘wrong’.
It’s one of the worst and belittling feelings that exist – people will defend against being ‘wrong’ til death. Why would you go and do that to someone else?? – Often times, by simply just standing up for something you ‘know’ to be right is some peoples’ way of declaring to the other person “you are wrong! [because i am right]” You’ll be surprised how easy life gets when you just being completely drop ‘being right’ from your life. In every situation (relationship context or not) if you just happily say “you are right” to another person… everything changes. You don’t have to agree, in fact, you can completely and totally disagree with every fibre of your being but you just accept that THEY believe they are right and they must have had some pretty intense experiences, learning’s or realisations to be able to come to that belief. You don’t say it with sarcasm – just say it genuinely “You are right…” “I see your point” “I never saw it that way before” “I totally agree with you” [you can always totally agree that the other person believes what they are saying - even if what you believe is the polar opposite - your need to "correct them" or "help them think" or "tell them how it really is" is your self-centred ego trying to feel better about itself.].
Consider this: By ‘being right’ about everything – WHAT FEELING ARE YOU LOOKING FOR? Satisfaction? Control? Respect? Righteous indignity? Do you honestly think being right will make you feel better about yourself?– How do you feel when someone else is being like that around you?? (Do you all of a sudden recognize that they are right and you are wrong and then bow down in awe & admiration of their all mighty intelligence?) Life becomes very easy from every angle when you can just STOP being right. Just give up being right – life becomes REALLY easy.
In relationships you have ONE CHOICE – you can be RIGHT or you can be HAPPY – what is more important to you? The ability to tell other people they are right and give up your own need to be right about everything is the key rapport skill of all the world’s best communicators and negotiators. How do you know when you are being right? – You are ALWAYS being right. EVERY SINGLE negative emotion you experience, you are being right about something.
This is the KEY POINT: Every single time you feel anything less than perfect, even the slightest bit of uncomfortable or annoyance you are being arrogantly Right about something. So as soon as you feel that little emotion you just STOP..and say to yourself “What am i being right about?” and the answer will be there. Then you have the choice: “Is it more important to be Right or to be Happy?
Example: someone cuts you off in traffic. You feel annoyed. Ask yourself “WHAT AM I BEING RIGHT ABOUT??” – the answer that will come to you could be many; You are being right that according to you [ or YOUR rules for what is the right way for everyone to live] he shouldn’t cut people off or that he’s an inconsiderate driver or that he shouldn’t treat you like that or that he has broken the law and you have social proof of just how wrong he is or that the rules for getting a license are too easy, or that he’s not a nice person, etc etc – it’s in this moment where you have the choice – YOU CAN BE RIGHT or YOU CAN BE HAPPY. What is more important?? So in regards to your relationship: What are you being right about?? [according to you, or your rules for how everyone should be or act] What is your spouse doing that you consider not right for them to be doing? How are they being or behaving that you have decided is wrong or inappropriate according to your rules? What do you believe about relationships/marriages that you think you are right in enforcing on someone else? What are you being right about in your relationship and then holding it against the other person (making them wrong) in a pathetic attempt to control their behaviour?

[The situational exception] The exception to this rule is when someone else tries to put influence you into a situation. You must always do what is right for you to do. Understanding that ‘you do NOT know what is right for anybody else to do’ is the most important part to living a happy life, but the other part to this is that you must always ask yourself “is THIS right for me” – if the answer is No, then a simple reply such as “it is NOT right for me to be involved in this, please do not push the offer” or in the situation of something like abuse the reply would be “it is not right for me to be abused by anyone, so i am leaving” – You must always do what is right for you.

Often, in fact very often I will get a client, who says something like “this is rubbish.  If I am at work, and someone says, you must do X, Y and Z – and it’s not my job to do those things I have other things, I have to get done – what am I supposed to just say ‘you are right’ and just do it?” the answer is no, all that proves is that they didn’t actually understand the principle.  They purposely, unconsciously, only listened to the parts of it that they could negate, so that they didn’t have to make such a big change in their life. The last part interval clearly states: you must do what is right to you.  If someone asks you to do that and it is not right for you to do it, the answer is: “I understand right to you to ask me to do that, but I had my duties, I am supposed to perform and its not like me to do that.  You have to ask somebody else.”

And again, someone will always say: “What if I see someone being beaten up? Am I supposed to just sit back and say, ‘That’s right for them!’” -and of course,  the answer is both yes and no.  Yes, because whatever is going on is right for the person doing the beating, but no, if you feel it is not right to you to just sit by and let that happen.  You need to do what is right to you.  Always!.

But anyway, these are all just badly thought out, excuse-generating ideas to justify not making this change.

Think about it like this: the people in life, who everybody likes are the most charismatic people – the structure of charisma is simple, they make you feel good about you, they talk to you about you, essentially, they make you feel right about you in every way.  The people in life, who get nowhere, who nobody likes, who struggle, and are just generally miserable, are the opposite people.  And the characteristic trait of those people is almost always the same, they are the people who complain about everything.  They are the people who blame everybody else for their problems.  they are the people for whom nothing is ever their fault. They are people who solely talk about themselves.  They are the victims of society.  Essentially, they are the people who are right about everything (and often, this ‘rightness’ is justified to themselves by believing they are more intelligent than other people!).

Read over this again.  You will see that every single problem in your life comes back to this.  Let go of being right and you’ll say hello to a happy, easy, productive life.

The formula is simple.
step 1: Notice negative emotion – from the slightest unsureness to the most extreme upsetness. ANY level whatsoever.
step 2: Ask yourself “What am I being RIGHT about?” -list those things in your mind.
step 3: Ask yourself “Is it more important to be right about all these things or to be happy?”
step 4: Choose. -You can’t have both.
If you choose righteousness – why are you doing it? who’s life are you wasting by making that choice? what do you think it proves? and to who?

Kindest Regards,

Troy Bakes
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www.troybakes.com

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Alright boys and girls, here it is…
My NEWest pattern that is so freakin powerful i was gonna call it the “OMG i have a new life” pattern – but then i thought better call it what it is. – a 15 minute complete Values Breakthrough session.

I had this little genius “aha” about a week ago whilst sweeping a floor. done it with every client since and the effect has been profound to say the least with everyone of em.

This bad boy is a mix of Tony Robbins 6-Human-Needs-Psychology, John Overdurf’s Values alignment and some timeline stuff.

HERE IS THE BASIC FORMULA:

1. – elicit clients 6 Human Needs Psychology order
2. – timeline or parts integrate the ‘away-from’ off the highest ‘Need’
3. – Check and Future Pace.

This is LITERALLY a 15 minute complete VALUES BREAKTHROUGH SESSION.

NOW HERE IS THE ELABORATION that explains how to do this and why it is one of the most amazing therapeutic techniques you’ll ever use.

The theory:

Tony Robbins does all his change-work under the principle of his 6 Human needs Psychology (Certainty, uncertainty, significance, love/connection, growth, contribution) [refer to Tony Robbins Creating Lasting Change for details]

Next,

John Overdurf figured out that after eliciting someone’s NLP Values Hierachy, essentially all you needed to do to remove ALL the conflicts in the list was to figure-out which values had strong Away-From componants on them, then just remove the away-from off the HIGHEST value with an away-from in the list and then 95% of the time+ ALL the conflicts in the hierachy would be resolved, even on values unrelated to the highest value with an away-from. For me, this proved true, i’ve been using this for months now. VERY Fast!

**(note number 3: further explaination on John Overdurf Values:
elicit the values the way you were taught, once you have the hierachy elicit the toward-away motivation from the top down, then the highest one – use whatever technique you want to remove the away-from, then almost every single time ALL the conflicts in the hierachy will be gone. if they haven’t after you’ve checked, all you do is remove the away-from off the second-highest away-from value. Apparently in Overdurfs’ experience he has never come accross a time when the top 2 didn’t totally fix every conflict. and according to him just doing the highest one will get it 95% of the time. in my experience with this in the last year or so i’ve never needed to do it twice.)**

so then all this got me thinking…

if Robbins says that the 6-Human Needs are Certainty, uncertainty, significance, love/connection, growth, contribution, surely those “values” MUST have an opposite side… I mean, They must have a ‘dis-owned’ part in order for you to establish this “value” [or i think of them as somewhere between Values and Identity in Dilts neurological levels as the order of your 6HNP seems to dictate your values hierachy but is not-quite Identity], so anyway, I sat down and thought about what i felt the ‘away-from’ or ‘avoidence’ or ‘fear of’ of each one of these 6HNP/values must be:
and this is the list I came up with (feel free to contribute, argue, add-in, disagree – this is all theoretical at this stage)

Human Need Away-From / Fear-of
Certainty                                          Loss of Control / Safety
Uncertainty                                     Boredom / Routine
significance                                      Insignificance
love/connection                            Loneliness
growth                                                Stagnation
contribution                                    [still unsure] unfullfilling a higher purpose?
Living a pointless life?
not making a difference?

(either way it’s not that important as according to Tony Robbins  neither Growth nor Contribution can be the highest one anyway)
so maybe you can see where i’m going with this:

If you know Tony’s 6HNP – it takes like 3 minutes to elicit from the client their order of the 6 (which is MASSIVELY easier, faster, deeper in structure and more accurate than eliciting NLP Values).

example their highest is Significance, growth etc.

so you give them a little spiel about how they must have decided at some level, at some time that ‘significance’ was to be of the highest level of importance to their identity and if they were to ask their unconscious.. was the decision to BE significant or to NOT be INsignificant?

[the reason I am loving this is because as you know away-froms create poor-performance and yo-yo dieters etc, so if we take off the away-from they are free to be whoever they want without going in 2 directions at once]

(**note: to do this pattern well for clients it would require a solid understanding and explaination of the 6 Human Needs as described by Tony Robbins. Thats’ why I say this is a 15 minute pattern not a 5 minute one. i think with clients it requires a good 10 minutes to get them to understand the 6HNP properly enough that they understand it and how it effects their life, their choices, decisions, beliefs etc and so that they can make an accurate guess at the hierachy. once you are there.. then that’s when you move forward.. this pattern could be done effectively by someone new to NLP but it’s a little confusing  to explain because you really need to calibrate to the clients understanding in order to allow them to understand exactly what they are going to release or parts-integrate. here is a link to Tony explaining the 6HNP a little http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Cpc-t-Uwv1I&feature=channel_page)**

of course at the “highest” level love/connection is the same for every human, but we are talking about how their 6HNP hierachy is OPERATIONALLY like we do with nlp-values.
so then you have 2 options: TIMELINE off the away-from (ie ‘away-from not being insignificant‘) or PARTS INTEGRATE the away-from and everything else (ie part that does not want to feel insignificant and EVERYTHING ELSE that is NOT the part that doesn’t want to feel insignificant) – choose which ever you feel best suits your client.

(**note – okay second note after a little confusion by a number of people due to my poor explaination skills. ;-P
let me pull an example outta my ass to try and explain this:
if your client understands that their highest 6HNP is ‘love/connection’ then you ask them if they were to know was the decision to “be about love or NOT be about being UNloved” and they give you the answer of “not to be UNloved” so you do a timeline pattern to release that decision you MAY strengthen the motivation for love [or not] because the away-from is gone, alternatively if you parts-integrate the ‘away-from unloved and everything that is not that’ you MAY have congruance [or not].
EITHER WAY – that is probably NOT the best way to describe it overall.
what i’m getting at is: if you have FULLY explained to your client how this love/connection need works (ie- they get love and connection from being with friends, how that makes them feel, how they get it neutrally by being being a caring parent and also how they get it in negative ways like complaining about things, by being a hypochondriac, by staying in an abusive relationship [connection is better than being alone] etc etc etc etc) **

once they FULLY understand how having THAT as their highest ‘need’ permeates and directs all their thinking, acting, behaving, decision making etc etc etc..
Then you can say “now as you understand how this works in your life, as you look at it and look over it, look at all your life, your history, your decisions – good, bad and otherwise.. you are getting a full understanding of how this completely domainates you, your choices, your thinking and who you are… so if you were to go inside.. and ask your unconscious when was the first event, that caused me to decide that THIS need was going to be the highest need & direction  in my life… etc tec tec [insert timeline pattern below]

that way they are choosing the right point to release, NOT the point based on their preconceptions of the word “love”.
and here’s a little timeline language pattern i designed for that:
“…go all the way back in time to the very first event in your life, the root cause, or the root-cause connected to the first event, where you came to a type of awareness that you did not have, or were not being given the ‘love’ ‘importance/significance’ ‘trust to look after yourself’ ‘etc etc etc’ that you needed. The first event, which when resolved completely now,  re-organised at the unconscious level & all the unconscious internal adjustments made genuinely and honestly, will allow this pattern of being to be completely healed in your life from this moment forward… if you were to know when this event was…. was it before during or after your birth..“

then just do that. so essentially taking the away-from off ALL the highest values at an NLP values hierachy level all at the same time by using Tonys’ 6HNP.

then re-calibrate for the change.
- I have done this each time [unnecessarily] by actually eliciting the NLP values as well to start with, then immediately after removing the away-from off the 6HNP i re-elicited the values.. the effect is ENORMOUS!! – i’m talking not just balance and re-ordering, in a couple cases it has been a transformation in most of the values, spontaneous full motivation.. the works. a literal TOTAL change.

so to recap this simple technique:

1. – elicit clients 6 Human Needs Psychology order
2. – timeline or parts integrate the ‘away-from’ off the highest ‘Need’
3. – Check and Future Pace.

This is LITERALLY a 15 minute complete VALUES BREAKTHROUGH SESSION.

tell me what you think